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External Circumstances


If there is one thing a player needs to know, it’s that they “belong.”

Let’s face it – we go through our lives hoping we can belong to “this” group or belong to “that” group. That is the problem though – we only hope. Understanding that you are good enough in the first place is easier said than done, but that is only because of the terms the world has placed on us as human beings. When we were extremely young, say 2 years old, those things didn’t matter as our innocence prevailed. However, as we grew older, we became more literal and people began assigning a value to everything we did. As a result, we began questioning our very existence sometimes in the present moment.

“I belong.” Go on and say it.

“I belong on this team. I belong in this class. I belong at this job.”

Be present where you are at and not anywhere else. You have a right to take up the space you occupy at this very moment.”

You belong.


Heard of the “Pink Elephant” theory? You may or may not have, but I can guarantee it’s probably had an effect on a lot of games you have played in. Let’s take the player who comes up late in the game with the tying run on third base and the winning run at second base. To make it even more interesting, let’s now say that – up until this point, this player at bat had hit three home runs in his previous three trips to the plate. The count is 1-1, and the third pitch of the at bat is a ball out of the strike zone, over the batters head. However, the player swings and misses.

Immediately, this player may hear, “Come on! Don’t swing at the pitch over your head! You can’t hit that can you? Come on now we have two guys on base. We’re counting on you! Don’t swing at that pitch!” Or he might hear, “Come on bud. That’s over your head right kiddo? Don’t worry about it. Don’t swing at the pitch over your head. You can do it. We all believe in you. Just don’t swing at the pitch over your head.”

A perfect example of the “Pink Elephant” theory.

The intriguing part about the former description is that the end result is typically the same. The batter doesn’t swing at the next pitch over his/her head. The problem is they don’t swing at another possible pitch – the one right down the middle for strike three. The game is over and the player doesn’t care that they hit three home runs. They feel they let everyone down and lost the game.

I invite you to try it sometime. When was the last time someone told you not to worry? Were you able to just stop worrying right then and there in that moment?

The more we try to force these things, the more bound up we get and the harder it is to perform freely and to our potential.

Don’t think of a pink elephant. Got it? Don’t think of a pink elephant.

Thinking of a Pink Elephant right now?

Thought so.


We don’t tend to think of life events or situations that occur in our life in terms of neutrality. Your “life” itself is constant while your life situations are neutral.

However, we usually judge and/or assign our life situations a value: positive or negative (ex. homerun vs. strike out), good or bad (diving play vs. diving miss), helpful or hurtful (being strong vs. being weak). While most of us think that these external circumstances actually happen “to” us (ex. a SLUMP),  in truth –  they don’t. They are just happening. All life situations are just happening.

Granted, we play a role in the outcome of whatever it is we face, but regardless of our role whether happy or disappointed, the nature of all circumstances or results in life is unbiased.

More precisely, if you can sense this difference between what goes on in the outside world (your life situations) and the resolute nature of your inner world(your life), you’ll be to handle not only the ups and downs on the baseball field, but in other areas of your life as well. Everything that occurs in our lives is meant to show us the way, not get in our way and it is up to us to make that choice. Bottom line – you are not regulated by your external circumstances.

An easier way to explain this is when you haven’t had a hit in 20 at bats and you hit a single to center, you ARE NOT out of your slump. The world would tell you that because that’s how they have defined it. The truth is that those hitless at bats never controlled you to begin with. They were neutral, just happening, not really happening to you.

That’s the beauty of baseball. You can fail 7 times out of 10 and be considered good. I can show you the guy who goes 0-10 at the plate and is good. 10 balls hit on the barrel of the bat extremely hard – and all caught.

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